10 Ways to Love Yourself and Overcome a Bad Childhood

You love yourself based on how much you perceived your parents loved you. If it wasn’t enough, then it’s up to you, now, to send love to those empty places within you. You can’t heal by blaming them, repeating the story over and over, or expecting everyone else in your life to make up for your parents’ mistakes. Only you can heal yourself from the emptiness, neediness and low-self esteem that an emotionally damaging childhood can create. Only YOU loving YOU works – not managing to get love from someone else, but only from YOU! We often look for love outside of ourselves, yearning for approvial, appreciation, hugs, positive support, attention, etc. but we find that not only can we not always depend on others to fulfill our emotional needs, but it is also exhausting trying to manipulate them to do it. So, how do you do this…how do you… Read the rest....
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Do you need love?

Have you ever felt that there is a deep hole inside you? One you cannot fill? I think all of us do to some extent. It feels like sometime, when we were very, very young, something or some things happened that pulled the natural love out of us and left a endless hole, because Love is infinite. With the love ‘out’ of us, we are left with trying to get love from other people in order to fill that hole, working to earn love, get approval, constantly vigilant about what was working and what’s not, and constantly expecting rejection and more pain. We make an agreement to protect ourselves from ever feeling that pain again. We constantly try to stuff the pain with food or substances. We isolate and avoid so we won’t feel the inevitable rejection. We give our power away to the people ‘out there’ because we depend… Read the rest....
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Freedom from the Past

When we were young, very young, we made decisions about ourselves and the world we live in that have lasted throughout our lives. These decisions, or agreements about life, were made before we had a rational mind or the perspecitve and experience of an adult. Most of our beliefs about the world were in place before the age of five. We were only concerned with our security and being loved. And when these needs weren't met, or worse when they were violated by abuse, we came to very fearful and limiting conclusions. These early beliefs formed our perspective of the world and have directed the way we interpret our experiences for our entire life. They are filters, allowing in some experiences, twisting some around to fit our perspective and totally blocking out others. They form our reality and we will swear by what we experience. No matter how much you… Read the rest....
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