What You Feel is More Important Than What Others Say

I am sure you have heard before that it is important to love yourself and here is a good reason why. Your personal vibration, beliefs and inner wounds change the way you experience life.  The more care you take to love yourself and care for yourself, the more you will see the world as a caring and loving place.   When your subconscious is mad, sad or feeling like a victim, it looks for experiences in the outer world and interprets things to validate that feeling. If you’ve activated your victim beliefs and wounds everyone will be out to get you.  “She really doesn’t like my dress. She’s just saying that so I’ll say something nice back to her.”  If you are in a good, happy mood you would see everything differently. “Oh, isn’t she nice to notice!” Our distortion of reality can even extend to inanimate objects. Your subconscious will… Read the rest....
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Wisdom for a Happy Life

One of the biggest issues for me over the years has been how to make the mind an ally instead of an enemy. Everyday suffering is largely mental. We obsess and worry. We are haunted by old hurts and anticipate new ones with anxiety. For many people, the same four questions keep cropping up to exacerbate these feelings:         1. "What's wrong with me?"         2. "What's going to happen?"         3. "How will I ever get out of this?"         4. "Where will the money come from?" Making these thoughts go away is extremely difficult. They are persistent and never seem to resolve themselves. The solutions we try to find don't work either. We ignore the nagging questions—a form of denial—or we reassure ourselves that there is nothing actually wrong, which, ironically, only stokes the worry and doubt. Another tactic? We try to offset our anxiety by proving our worth through the pursuit… Read the rest....
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Healing Painful Charges and Wounds from the Past

We all have them. Emotional wounding from our childhood. An event, a person, something happened to create a cluster of pain and beliefs surrounding that pain. Years can go by, and as long as that wound is still festering, all it takes is a word, or a certain look on someone’s face to trigger it. Then suddenly you are embroiled in a cloud of turbulence, lashing out at the poor person or thing that set you off, telling yourself a story of pain. A story that seems so true, that controls you so much, that eats away at your happiness. I have a wound around rejection. It comes with a set of beliefs to support it. “I’m not loved, people will betray me, I’m not wanted, I have to earn love, even good things won’t last, etc.” Once you get a wounding, it’s always there preventing you from seeing what… Read the rest....
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