We are so used to always seeing things from our own viewpoint. We know that what we experience is determined by our beliefs and filters and that these beliefs and filters were set in place at a young age before the life you are living now even existed. Yet we are so attached to our limited views that we will defend them aggressively in any argument. If you find yourself in a quarrel with someone, try this simple technique to expand your perspective and enable you to see a problem with more awareness and compassion.
1) First, see things from the 1st perspective.
2) Next, switch to the 2nd perspective.
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and imagine what it’s like to be that person, looking back at yourself, seeing, hearing, and feeling as the other person. Consider the needs of the other person.
3) Then, see things from the 3rd Perspective.
Take a detached viewpoint. Imagine you are looking at yourself and the other person ‘over there’ – seeing the two of them speaking, gesturing, watching their expressions, etc. Pay particular attention to non-verbal behavior such as the body language and the sound of their voices.
4) Lastly, as a result of taking these separate viewpoints, ask yourself what advice you wish to give ‘yourself’ about how you are handling the situation.
Expanding your awareness in this way will give you more compassion, allow you to think ‘out of the box’ opening to new insights, and raise you to a new level of being. Awareness is an amazing tool for growth and changing your perspective changes the way you see any situation.
3 thoughts on “Expanding Your Awareness and Compassion in Relationships”
I naturally try to do this in most things i do, as i beleive in do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. However in the heat of the moment it can be extreamly difficult in practicing what you preach. However this approach of using the third person to analyse situation can be useful both professionally and personally and i will endevour to use this technique in the future.
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